Moving Day - Queue — LiveJournal
We moved Kit into the other bedroom last night. We weren't really using all of the space in the room before, so, now that it's a bit better organized, it looks a lot roomier. The futon is against the far corner, back where the TV used to be, and the dresser that was in there, plus the dresser that was in our bedroom, are both against the side wall where the futon was. And the Chicken is going on that wall in there, which means we'll have to find another place for the Wheel of Time poster, and I will have space to hang up my large painting in my bedroom. I was thinking on the way over here if I wanted to rearrange at all. Not sure how I could do it very much, since I don't want the bed blocking any of the closets or doors to the room. Probably the most I'll do is move the dresser to the corner where Kit's dresser used to be, and shove the TV into the corner where the dresser is now.
Neither of us has had a space that is just our own since we left home a little more than 8 years ago. We're both pretty excited about it, and I don't know why we didn't think about it sooner. It probably didn't even enter our minds because that's just Not The Thing Married Couples Do. I'm really glad that Kit and I can do things our own way and not feel constrained by how everyone else does things. I really am lucky to have a wife like her, and, I think this is the first time I've admitted it (even though Kit's said it many times), she really is lucky to have a husband like me. We really have learned to support each other and allow each other to be who we want to be. It hasn't always been easy, but that's what makes it worth it.
I could sit here all day writing, but I really should do some work. You know, I really do need something like a month or two off, so that I can do some serious writing and do crosswords and pick up the recorder again and read all the books I want to read. Okay, maybe more like 6 months. But, since that's not likely to happen in the near future, I guess I'll have to try to make time to do those things.
|Date:||December 13th, 2001 01:36 pm (UTC)|| |
Global vs. local cohabitation
The first married couple I befriended on my own kept separate bedrooms, something I hadn't seen before, and which I thought was really great. Seeing their setup helped change my mind about marraige, which until then I thought of as some sort of mutual social entrapment, and clearly outmoded. (Granted, the only models I had until then were my parents and their friends, all from two or three generations prior to mine. (I have unsually old parents.))
Technically, they weren't married back when they lived local to me, but it seemed just a formality they hadn't gotten around to yet. They acted around each other as if they had known one another for 100 years though neither was yet 30, and they radiated comfort together, especially when in their wonderful home... the sort of thing that attracts hangers-on like me to come hang out and bask. They moved way down south after college, and have since gotten married and had two kids. I wonder how these changes have affected their lifestyle. Someday, perhaps, I'll find out.
(Trivia: my not-very-recently-used comix characters Burt and Martha
were heavily inspired by them.)
|Date:||December 13th, 2001 01:38 pm (UTC)|| |
You know, I really do need something like a month or two off, so that I can do some serious writing and do crosswords and pick up the recorder again and read all the books I want to read. Okay, maybe more like 6 months.
And to this I say: Be careful what you wish for.
|Date:||December 14th, 2001 03:39 am (UTC)|| |
Re: Free time
Well, fortunately, we were just assured again at our company that there will be no "Draconian measures." No layoffs, no hiring freezes, bonuses and raises will continue, etc. A friend of mine who works in the same department said that it didn't make her feel very good that they've felt the need to say that twice now, when it wasn't something that she'd been concerned about. But, since the our business is making books, and my friend and I are directly involved in that, I don't think we need to worry. And I would hope there's not likely to be a .edu crash any time soon. (not that it would necessarily be a bad thing)
|Date:||December 14th, 2001 10:26 am (UTC)|| |
Re: Free time
I have to add, morbid as it is, that all these statements reflect what I was told, too. The decision to enact layoffs came suddenly, afer months of top-level statements that there'd never be layoffs, and between the announcement of the decision and the Reading of the Book of Life, my dept was assured that it was untouchable.
To be fair, the change of heart regarding layoffs came as a result of 9-11 and the realization that this September would not be a rallying sales month, as it usually is.