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April 8th, 2004
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Gah, stupid tests

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From:hrafn
Date:April 9th, 2004 08:59 am (UTC)
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Well, on the occasions in the past few months when we have had realtime voice conversations, about what's going on, they've seemed (to me anyway) a lot more meaningful and useful and actually conversational than, well, many 100s of conversations in the previous n years.
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Date:April 9th, 2004 09:06 am (UTC)
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Sometimes I really hate how my memory works. I don't really have anything useful to say, since I can't remember what sorts of conversations we had years ago. Um, yeah. Maybe we're having the same number of useful conversations, but we're just skipping all of the hundreds of broing conversations, since we only ever talk to each other if we've got something to say. Living together really had its down sides, huh? Of coruse, we're both different people now. I wonder if I'd be able to handle a live-in relationship better now than I did before. It may well be, but, of course, the ironic thing (not quite as ironic as ten thousand spoons) is that now I would much prefer to live alone. How fucked up is that? The time in my life where I'd better be able to deal with living with someone is the time in my life when I don't want to live with someone.
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From:hrafn
Date:April 9th, 2004 10:18 am (UTC)
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I don't really have anything useful to say, since I can't remember what sorts of conversations we had years ago. Um, yeah. Maybe we're having the same number of useful conversations, but we're just skipping all of the hundreds of broing conversations, since we only ever talk to each other if we've got something to say.

Well, I don't really remember a lot, either, but I think now, yeah, we don't have the boring ones (that I imagine are simply a fact of life when you live w/someone) any more. But it really does seem like there's more communication abuot important things than there used to be. And maybe some of that is that more care is taken now to pay attention to those things, because instead of having 10 short conversations about work/other people/etc., it gets condensed into one or two, and there aren't household-related distractions. Makes me wish I'd kept a more thorough journal over the years.

Living together really had its down sides, huh?

Yes.

Of coruse, we're both different people now.

Fundamentally, I don't feel any different. Just more certain.

I wonder if I'd be able to handle a live-in relationship better now than I did before.

Well, do you think you can handle "a relationship" better now than before? I think a lot of the same issues that come up w/a live-in SO are just different manifestations of the same issues that come up with any SO.

It may well be, but, of course, the ironic thing (not quite as ironic as ten thousand spoons)

More ironic, really - curse you, Alanis, forever confusing people about the appropriate use of ironic!

is that now I would much prefer to live alone. How fucked up is that? The time in my life where I'd better be able to deal with living with someone is the time in my life when I don't want to live with someone.

Just to be difficult: wanting to live alone seems a sure way to be less able to deal with living with someone ;) I suppose, though, the roommate situation has probably improved your living-with-others skills.
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